Are we in the midst of paedogeddon?
Not my question, but Suzanne Moore in today’s Guardian. She gets it right that all the Jimmy Savile brouhaha and panic over paedos in Downing St is wildly OTT, but then predictably comes out with the tired old feminist mantra that child sexual abuse (CSA) is largely an ordinary family thing.
She’s right that abuse – mainly emotional, neglectful and violent – thrives in nuclear families as it does in other forms of closed institution. But after decades of supposedly “silenced” victims screaming constantly through every conceivable communications medium, the truly silenced voice is that of children who have sexual encounters with adults and do NOT feel abused.
Moore hints at their existence when she tells us, “I have been inundated with stories from women who have been abused mostly in familial circumstances. Some of them are confused about whether they really have been abused.”
Confused? Or just unwilling to accept the dominant abuse narrative because they were happy to take part at the time, look back on it fondly, and have never been traumatized as feminists and other victimologists insist they must have been?
Moore’s unwitting admission comes just days after a conference in America at which David Finkelhor, doyen of anti-CSA gurus, let slip a related unmentionable, when he said “Kids are sometimes aggressive in seeking out sexual relationships with adults.”
He meant – and his audience would have understood – that these kids should be reined in; their sexuality should be monitored and suppressed. His idea of “listening to the children”, like that of so many in our society who see sex in terms of danger rather than pleasure, is to pry on them, pounce on what they are up to, and kill it dead.